Gay Honolulu & Oahu, Hawaii: Best Gay Hotels, Bars & Nightlife (2026)

Sun, Surf, Culture & Aloha Spirit on Hawaii’s Most Iconic Island

Aloha from Waikiki! Honolulu — and the island of Oahu — offers a warm blend of classic tropical beauty and vibrant LGBTQ+ energy. From legendary beaches and world-class hikes to historic sites and welcoming gay venues, this island paradise is perfect for couples, solo travelers, and queer adventurers alike.

In our LGBTQ+ guide to Honolulu and Oahu, we break down where to stay, what to see and do, where to eat and drink, the best gay nightlife, plus travel tips, FAQs, and more — all inspired by our own adventures in the Aloha State.

Why Visit Gay Honolulu & Oahu?

Honolulu is more than a beach destination — it’s an epicenter of culture, history, and aloha spirit that feels especially welcoming to LGBTQ+ travelers. Waikiki Beach buzzes with energy, live music, and cocktails with sunset views, while venues like Hula’s Bar & Lei Stand have served queer communities for decades.

Beyond the city, Oahu’s natural wonders — from Haleiwa and the North Shore to the volcanic crater at Diamond Head — offer a huge variety of tropical adventure, relaxation, and unforgettable photo ops. Whether you’re here for the beach clubs, the hikes, the history, or the nightlife, you’ll find something to fall in love with.

Where to Stay

From iconic beachfront properties to LGBTQ+ friendly resorts, Honolulu has something for every style and stay.

Moana Surfrider, A Westin Resort & Spa – Best Luxury LGBTQ+ Stay

⭐ Best for: Historic beachfront elegance + special-occasion moments (hello, high tea)
📍 Location: Waikiki Beach (Beachfront)

Why We Love It:

Moana Surfrider isn’t just a place to sleep — it’s a slice of Hawaiian history right on Waikiki Beach, nicknamed the “First Lady of Waikiki.” The lush courtyard, ocean-facing rooms, and classic amenities make this an unforgettable base for your Oahu trip. Most visitors love starting or ending their day with high tea on the veranda overlooking the water.

Waikiki Walls — Best Sunset Swim Spot

Waikiki Walls is a protected section of the shoreline east of the main Waikiki beach where the water is calm and inviting. Locals and visitors alike gather here at sunset for beach hangs, swimming, and gorgeous views as the sun dips below the waves — a classic Oahu moment.

Diamond Head Hike — Most Iconic Island View

No trip to Oahu is complete without hiking Diamond Head Crater — a volcanic landmark formed over 300,000 years ago. From the summit you get sweeping panoramic views of Waikiki, Honolulu, and the Pacific — perfect for photo ops and a sense of island scale that you can’t get anywhere else.

Reservations are required online, and the trail is a moderate 1.6-mile round trip — worth every step.

Polo Beach — Best Gay-Popular Nude Beach

Oahu offers a few clothing-optional or relaxed beach spots, and Polo Beach is well-known among gay travelers for sunbathing, swimming, and socializing in a liberated way near the water without the crowds of more mainstream beaches.

Where to Eat and Drink

Honolulu’s food scene blends relaxed island flavors with refined oceanfront dining. From elevated afternoon tea to hidden deli gems and some of the freshest sushi in the Pacific, Waikiki delivers far more than just beachside bites.

Here are our favorites.

Cream Pot — Best for Brunch in a Garden Oasis

Known for their ultra-fluffy soufflé pancakes and charming garden setting, Cream Pot is our go-to after an early morning at Pearl Harbor or Diamond Head. Their local strawberry pancakes are a must, and you can even order Kona coffee here without waiting in the infamous Waikiki lines. It’s cozy, photogenic, and consistently worth the hype.

Pai’s Deli — Best for Affordable Local Lunch

This understated local favorite is one of Waikiki’s best-kept secrets. Pai’s Deli serves generous portions at prices that feel surprisingly reasonable for Hawaii. It’s casual, friendly, and ideal when you want something quick and satisfying between beach sessions.

Furusato Sushi — Best for Fresh, No-Fuss Sushi

One of our personal favorites. FuruSato delivers high-quality sushi in an unpretentious setting — exactly what you want after a beach day. The fish is incredibly fresh, the service is warm, and it’s a reliable spot for both casual dinners and sushi cravings done right.

Veranda at Moana Surfrider— Best for Iconic Afternoon Tea on Waikiki Beach

If you’re celebrating something special — or just want to feel like you are — afternoon tea at the Veranda is an experience you shouldn’t miss.

Set inside the historic Moana Surfrider, this oceanfront tea service is pure old-world elegance with tropical flair. Expect a three-tiered silver display of finger sandwiches, scones with lilikoi curd, delicate pastries, and your choice of premium teas — all served with sweeping views of Waikiki Beach and Diamond Head.

It’s refined without being stuffy, and easily one of the most memorable dining experiences in Honolulu. Reservations are strongly recommended.

Best Gay Bars & Clubs

From long-loved watering holes to lively clubs and karaoke nights, Honolulu’s LGBTQ+ nightlife is as welcoming as it is fun.

Hula's Bar & Lei Stand – Waikiki’s Legendary Gay Bar

Hula’s is Waikiki’s iconic LGBTQ+ gathering spot for more than 50 years. It’s been a cornerstone of queer nightlife in Honolulu — welcoming, unpretentious, and always buzzing with energy. By day, it’s the perfect place for Bloody Marys, Mai Tais, and ocean breezes; by night, it transforms with live music, DJs, and one of the liveliest dance floors on the island.

Tapas Waikiki – Inclusive Waikiki Lounge

Tapas Waikiki is a relaxed, welcoming LGBTQ+ bar known for its friendly vibe. For more than two decades, it’s been a space where locals and visitors alike can feel completely comfortable being themselves. Tapas also hosts a monthly fetish-kink night and a popular monthly Bear Boat Party, so be sure to check their socials for the latest event details before you go.

Bacchus Waikiki – Waikiki Neighborhood Favorite

Casual but lively, Bacchus Waikiki is a friendly gay bar perfect for cocktails and conversations. They also host a monthly boys in briefs party, Waikiki’s first and sexiest underwear party. Free clothes check provided.

Scarlet Honolulu – Best Club & Drag Shows

A downtown Honolulu spot with a solid dance floor, drag performances, and electric energy late into the night — ideal for queer dancers and show-lovers.

When to Go

Honolulu is a year-round tropical destination, but the vibe shifts depending on season — from peak winter beach energy and whale season to quieter shoulder months with better hotel deals and fewer crowds.

Winter (December–March): Best Weather + Peak Visitors

This is prime time in Hawaii. Expect warm days in the high 70s to low 80s°F (25–28°C), lower humidity, and postcard-perfect beach weather. It’s also humpback whale season and one of the busiest times of year — especially around the holidays — so book flights and hotels early.

Spring (April–May) + Fall (September–October): Best Value + Fewer Crowds

These shoulder months are our sweet spot. You still get great weather, the ocean is warm, and Waikiki feels lively without being overwhelming. Hotel rates are often lower, restaurant reservations are easier, and it’s simply more relaxed.

Summer (June–August): Warmest + Family Season

Summer brings hotter temperatures, higher humidity, and more families on school holidays. It’s still beautiful — just busier and sometimes pricier. Ocean conditions tend to be calmer on the south shore during summer months, making Waikiki especially swimmable.

Key LGBTQ+ Events in Honolulu

Honolulu’s LGBTQ+ scene may be smaller than some mainland cities, but when it celebrates, it does it with serious island flair.

Honolulu Pride (October):
The city’s biggest LGBTQ+ celebration typically includes a parade, festival, and the iconic Lei Pool Party, one of Hawaii’s most anticipated queer events. Bars across Waikiki host themed nights, drag shows, and after-parties throughout the weekend.

Aloha Bears Events (Year-Round):
Honolulu’s bear community is active and welcoming. Look out for monthly gatherings, including Tapas Waikiki’s Bear Boat Party and post-cruise socials.

Monthly Fetish & Theme Nights (Year-Round):
Venues like Tapas host special kink and fetish evenings. Always check social media for current schedules — events can rotate seasonally.

Getting Here & Around

Oahu is one of the most accessible Hawaiian islands, and once you land, getting around is easier than many first-time visitors expect.

By Air: Most travelers arrive at Daniel K. Inouye International Airport (airport code: HNL), located about 20–30 minutes from Waikiki depending on traffic. HNL has extensive connections to the U.S. mainland, Canada, Asia, and other Hawaiian islands.

Getting to Waikiki from the airport:

Getting Around Oahu

Waikiki itself is incredibly walkable. You can easily reach beaches, restaurants, shops, and nightlife on foot.

For exploring beyond Waikiki:

If you’re planning to hike Diamond Head or visit Pearl Harbor, we recommend booking timed entries in advance — especially during high season.

Frequently Asked Questions & Travel Tips

Is Honolulu LGBTQ+ friendly?

Yes. Honolulu and Hawaii as a whole are known for their inclusive spirit, legal protections, and vibrant queer community. Oahu in particular invites LGBTQ+ travelers with open arms and aloha everywhere you go.

Can you swim at Waikiki Beach safely?

Yes — Waikiki is protected and calm most days, making it ideal for swimming throughout the year. Always pay attention to lifeguard flags and conditions.

Is Hawaii expensive to visit?

Oahu can be pricey — especially beachfront hotels and dining — but smart planning (points, off-peak travel, and local eats) can help make it more affordable.

When is the best time to visit?

October (for Pride and festival vibes) or late spring through early fall for sunshine and outdoor activity. Winter brings surf season and holiday crowds.

Is Honolulu safe for LGBTQ+ travelers?

Yes — Honolulu, especially Waikiki, is very LGBTQ+ friendly and we’ve always felt comfortable here day and night. The island has a long history of inclusivity, and places like Hula’s, Bacchus, and other queer-owned spaces are well integrated into the community. As with any major tourist destination, stay aware of your surroundings late at night and in busy areas, but overall Waikiki feels welcoming, relaxed, and safe for LGBTQ+ travelers.

Final Thoughts

Honolulu and Oahu offer an incredible mix of tropical beauty, rich culture, historic significance, and LGBTQ+ friendly energy that few destinations can match. Whether you’re sipping a Mai Tai at a catamaran sail, hiking up Diamond Head, or dancing at Scarlet until late, you’ll find a welcoming, aloha spirit around every corner.

This island paradise is one of those places you’ll want to come back to again and again.